Over 1,000 successful marriages! Miyuki Uekusa wants women who are engaged to be married to know the "real point" of watching The "real points" when watching romantic dramas, movies, and manga!

Miyuki Uekusa, president of the marriage counseling agency Marry Me (MSP Inc., headquartered in Shibuya-ku, Tokyo), with a track record of over 1,000 successful marriages, will present her views on how women who are engaged in marriage activity view dramas, movies and manga.

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Normal girls" and "tsundere girls" are not popular in real life.

In romance dramas, movies, and manga, there are stories about "ordinary girls who seem to be everywhere who are discovered by handsome men," or "tsundere (a woman who is not honest and hides her true feelings) who are liked by wealthy men and get married, Unfortunately, in reality, such things rarely happen. That is why this story is a dream come true.

However, nowadays, we see many women who start their marriage activity with such an image. This impression is especially strong among those who have never been in a relationship before, which is about 30% of the total. Even if they are not as handsome or wealthy as in the stories, men who are clean and have a good income are very popular in the marriage activity field. However, they don't make an effort to be noticed by their partner or aim for a higher status that will be recognized as suitable by others, and they don't make any major changes to themselves or become disillusioned with their partner over the slightest thing.

To put it harshly, if you have lived for decades and never had such encounters, it is not possible that everything will suddenly go well just because you have started marriage activity. Of course, there is no need to change the way of thinking and living that you hold dear, but in order to match your ideal person and win the battle against many rivals, there must be something you need to change or something you need to work on. We also need to have such a sense of humility.

■The most unattractive person in marriage activity is the person who is difficult to understand

When arranging a blind date or setting up a date at a marriage counseling center, the most problematic word is "I'll leave it to you. For example, a man may ask, "What would you like to eat?" Where would you like to go?" a woman will say, "Anything (anywhere) is fine. I leave it to you. This may be due to feelings such as "I want to give priority to the man's intention" or "I don't want to be thought of as selfish by honestly expressing my wishes," but women who are engaged in marriage activity should stop using this phrase in the future.

However, women who are in active relationships should not use these words in the future, because men have no idea what to do if they are told "I'll leave it up to you" when they do not know each other well yet. Since the number of men who have never been in a relationship before is increasing these days, they may panic when they are told so. In other words, it is just a burden.

What is even more problematic is that most women who say they will leave it to me are later dissatisfied. They ask, "Why are you asking me to do that?" They are angry or disappointed, and end up breaking off the relationship. But it is wrong to be dissatisfied when you have not told them what you want. Then you should make your own choice and say, "I would be happy with this or that." What do you think? In today's busy world, what men like most is someone who is easy to understand. If you are not "understanding" or "aware," you will never get close to a successful marriage.

■The real point of watching a story

In marriage activity, the first thing you should refer to in romantic dramas, movies, and manga is "gestures, words, and actions. Specifically, the way they walk, the way they pose, the way they look at each other, and the way they expand the conversation. It is important to look closely at the process rather than the story or the ending.

For example, if there is a scene in which a man quickly walks away, what should a woman do? In foreign dramas, for example, "Wait!" and instead of getting angry, they "quickly hold hands. It is these "gestures and actions that come out casually" that you should pay attention to.

Next, "fashion. If it is a movie, I especially recommend Audrey Hepburn's. Flared one-pieces with cinched waists, Sabrina pants and mini-skirts, which were thoughtfully designed to make women look beautiful, look stylish, elegant and cute, and have a timeless, universal glamour and dignity. Marriage is also about your relationship with your partner's parents, so there is no harm in acquiring the skills to create a good impression that transcends age.

Marriage Consulting Agency MARRYME will continue to provide marriage activity advice in line with the times.

◆Marriage Consulting Agency Marry Me Representative: Miyuki Uekusa Career

Advisor for love and marriage activity, Representative Director of MSP Inc.

Ltd., a staffing agency specializing in the apparel industry, in 1995. In 2009, she started Marry Me, a marriage counseling agency, utilizing her coordination skills and achievements cultivated through her experience in the industry.

For the past 14 years, he has advised approximately 2,000 people a year, including those on the radio, and boasts a marriage rate of approximately 80% (*), compared to the industry average of 15%. He has written several books, including "Be a Wagamama Woman (Kodansha)," "What Only People Who Seize Good Marriages Value (co-authored with Emi Suuchi, published by Seishun Publications)," and "The Art of Marriage (Chuokoron Shinsha).

(*) Calculated by dividing the number of couples who have successfully married by the total number of couples who have withdrawn. 82% of couples who have successfully married since January 2022.

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